When I was 17 I had no idea what I was getting my self into. All I know is I was so scared didn’t think I was going to be able to care for another human being. I got pregnant with Joshua when I was 17, I turned 18 in August 1997 he was born October 1997. I got married June 1998. I remember how much I suffered I was in labor for 36 hrs before they could give me an epidural. I remember thinking ” Oh God this will never end” .. when Joshua was finally born and we held him for the 1st time the joy was stamped in our foreheads. Back then I didn’t have any idea of what life was going to bring me.. Almost 2yrs later I was pregnant with Isaque the joy kept multiplying and very quickly hahaha … 11 Months later I had Gabriel. Now Gabe and Isaque’s labor was much more comfortable and easy to deal with.. but of course having 3 small children was not an easy choice I made, But Even though, it’s just one of those things we Wouldn’t Trade for anything in this world.. Our kids are our Joy, our Happiness, we do everything possible to Always give them the Best, We try very hard to make it a good life for them.

Last year when I went to parent teachers conference my kids where not doing so well.. Joshua and Isaque loves to chitchat and the teachers get’s a little annoyed with it .. I’m not saying I wouldn’t either, they have to respect but it’s so hard this is the age when they want to know it all and do it all.. Since I stared working I found my self more distance not doing much for them, I’m so tired all the time never have the energy to do anything.

Daddy gave Joshua and Isaque an Iphone for completing their grades and as a gift for Christmas.. They were very happy they got to have a phone and a cool one may i add
So This year as I was talking to the kids I started asking for better grades and better attitude and behavior. Things changed a lot in 1year.. Joshua now 14, Isaque 12 and Gabriel 11 it’s so hard to deal with them and all that’s going on in their lives ( the famous {Teen} years LOL … Some days I want to pull all the hair on my head and scream hahahha.. Comparing to all their friends and other kids their age they are Great kids and their behaviors are pretty good… I check most of their text messages and Facebook. They each have their own and have their privacy but, I like to randomly check it because it’s not easy being a teen and the pressure is so much sometimes I believe no one can handle it. As I was checking their stuff and reading all the things “Friends” messaged them I was in shock. I could not believe all that I was reading.. { and most people would say ” what you never been a teen before } uhh yes I was a teen and I did my share in keep my mother going crazy but never at this age and the things that these kids are doing.
I read one message from one of his friends, telling him { If he never tried smoking marijuana how does he know he doesn’t like it and that he should just try it once} I of course freaked out I was so PROUD of my boy when I read his reply and he said {NO} and he said I don’t need to try it I know that it’s bad and we have personal experience in our family and friends that started with Marijuana and ended up dead because they Od-ed on Heroin.
At this point I was so Happy and extremely Proud of my kids for believing { There’s Better Things } and I’ll admit I was proud of my self and my husband as well.. Because we have a relationship that we can tell our kids things like this and explain to them what will happen when they make the wrong choice in life.. and having them say something like that on their own. They could of said yes and instead they replied to it just as I explained it.. I was very happy. Like us adults we all make mistakes in like and I strongly believe if we teach our kids from the mistakes we made in life they will have a better life.

Thursday we went to Parents & Teachers conference for this year and I was very happy with what all the teachers had to say. Besides a few missing home work and a lot of talking my kids have all good grades and I was so Proud. I told them that this year if they bring home A’s and B’s nothing less them a B- I will give them an award from $100-$25 .. Now my question is am I being a { BAD } mother because I offered them an award? and It’s {Working}??? I don’t believe that makes me a Bad mother.. I know I’m not the { Perfect } Mother but I sure ain’t no bad one haha… It’s what’s working for my family and I really don’t care what other people have to say about it. I guess I’ll see at the end of the year if I did a good thing or not .. so far I got all 100% the lowest was a 85% and that’s making me SMILE .. Hope they can keep it up and I will make sure they do that no matter what it takes….
Please let me know your thoughts and how are you all doing it
Blesses
